LOVE AND MARRIAGE
.
Mishpacha Magazine featured a
cover story on the growing phenomenon of couples getting divorced after 25, 30,
35 years of marriage.
Such midlife divorces are an
alarming, growing trend.
The article quotes Rav Moishe
Blum, head of a New York rabbinic court that deals with gittin [halachic
divorce]:
"People don't want to work
at learning what it is to live with each other, to give in, to struggle, to be
patient. …
The reason we see so many
midlife divorces today is that although many couples are not ready to work on
their marriage, they are willing to push through, to keep the act going, until
the kids are out of the house.
Sadly, this 'waiting it
out' policy, as opposed to really investing in work and change, is very
prevalent."
The article goes on to say:
"What makes a couple, after raising a family together for two dozen years,
decide to finally divorce?
Perhaps it's because couples
spend all their years focused on their kids instead of on their marriage …
"
...Our motto, on the contrary,
is:
"MY MARRIAGE IS THE MOST
IMPORTANT THING IN MY LIFE."
There's no reason to suffer in a
bad marriage...
Make your marriage great by
working on it.
Stop feeling disrespected and
unheard by actively listening and effectively communicating.
Rearrange the letters! Not
W-H-O, but H-O-W
.
Having a great marriage depends
not on WHO you're married to, but HOW much you work on your marriage.
,
Sara
Yoheved
