Thursday, September 15, 2016

LOVE AND MARRIAGE


LOVE AND MARRIAGE

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Mishpacha Magazine featured a cover story on the growing phenomenon of couples getting divorced after 25, 30, 35 years of marriage. 

 

Such midlife divorces are an alarming, growing trend. 

  

The article quotes Rav Moishe Blum, head of a New York rabbinic court that deals with gittin [halachic divorce]: 

 

"People don't want to work at learning what it is to live with each other, to give in, to struggle, to be patient. …  

 

The reason we see so many midlife divorces today is that although many couples are not ready to work on their marriage, they are willing to push through, to keep the act going, until the kids are out of the house.  

 

 Sadly, this 'waiting it out' policy, as opposed to really investing in work and change, is very prevalent." 

 

The article goes on to say: "What makes a couple, after raising a family together for two dozen years, decide to finally divorce?  

 

Perhaps it's because couples spend all their years focused on their kids instead of on their marriage … 

 

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...Our motto, on the contrary, is:  

 

"MY MARRIAGE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN MY LIFE." 

 

There's no reason to suffer in a bad marriage... 

 

Make your marriage great by working on it. 

 

Stop feeling disrespected and unheard by actively listening and effectively communicating. 

 

Rearrange the letters! Not W-H-O, but H-O-W 

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Having a great marriage depends not on WHO you're married to, but HOW much you work on your marriage. 

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Sara Yoheved